If there's one thing that I personally struggle with, it's feeling defensive.
It's natural, but it's also the number one killer of conversation.
If you feel defensive, you shut everybody off.
And if they feel defensive, they're not going to listen to anything else you have to say.
On today's episode.
It's all about how do you handle defensiveness?
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It's just biological.
It's natural.
Because anything that you perceive as a threat or a challenge, you fight against.
It is natural as part of your fight or flight.
On any argument that you're going to have, there are two sides.
There is an ignition side and a cooling side of it.
And that ignition is triggered by things that trigger you.
So anytime somebody challenges your opinion or disagrees with you, your body perceives that as a threat.
That says, I don't like that somebody gives you an opinion and you disagree.
Your body says, I don't like that somebody's telling you what to do.