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Hi, I'm Maggie Jones.
I am a contributing writer for the New York Times Magazine.
I've written about the sex lives of many demographics, from teenagers to people in their 80s.
A few years ago, I wrote this big article about sex and aging, and that in part led me to report the story you're going to hear today, this week's Sunday Read.
It's about the pleasures, frustrations and freedoms of dating online when you're over 50 and single, a demographic that I myself am part of.
I wanted to tackle the ageist assumptions I've heard from several people in their teens, 20s, and 30s, these narratives that as we get older, we don't go about dating the same way younger people do, or that if you're single past 50, you're letting go of sex, or of falling in love again, or that older single women are desperate to remarry.
None of that is true.
I knew this because I'd already been talking to a lot of friends and the men who I was dating about their experiences.
And I'd been on the apps myself, swiping past blurry, outdated selfies, photos of men holding fish that feel like they're on every fifth person's profile, and cliches that, as a writer, get so tedious to read.
But as I did more formal research, I found out there were a bunch of interesting studies out there about dating after 50 and about sexuality and aging.
I pored over these studies, talked to probably three dozen people all across the country, and of course, mined my own experiences for this article.
What I learned is that there are lots of people over 50, women especially some separated, some divorced, some widowed, who are using apps to explore their sexuality and dating far more than they ever did in their 20s.