2024-10-28
2 小时 39 分钟Welcome to the Huberman Lab podcast where we discuss science and science based tools for everyday life.
I'm Andrew Huberman and I'm a professor of Neurobiology and Ophthalmology at Stanford School of Medicine.
My guest today is Bill Eddy.
Bill Eddy is a practicing lawyer, a professional mediator, a licensed therapist and on the faculty of the School of Law at Pepperdine University.
He is a world expert in conflict resolution, in particular how to resolve conflicts with what are called high conflict personalities.
I should be very clear that these high conflict personalities, as you'll learn today, are not in a category of so called personality disorders.
Now, it is the case that people with high conflict personalities often also have borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, or suffer from bipolar depression.
However, as you'll soon learn, people who have this high conflict personality type could fall into any one of those three different categories, any combination of them, or none of them at all.
These high conflict personalities essentially come in two flavors.
Some are very outwardly combative.
They like to argue, they like to generate conflict in a way that's very overt, very obvious.
The others, which comprise about 50% of high conflict personality types, are very passive.
They play the victim or they leverage other people, so called negative advocates, in order to achieve their goal of creating a lot of conflict where they always appear as the victim.
During today's discussion, you'll learn how to identify these high conflict personality types based on some very simple questions that you can ask yourself about them.
He also explains how to deal with these people in the workplace, setting, in relationships, and importantly of course, how to disengage from these people not just in the short term, but permanently.
Now, across today's discussion, you'll realize that Bill Eddy is very sensitive both to the suffering that high conflict personalities cause for other people and therefore how to identify them, avoid them and disengage from them.
But he also makes it a point not to demonize these high conflict personality types instead.
As a mediator, as a lawyer, and as a therapist, he is really most interested in helping people resolve their conflicts with these people and and find the best, most peaceful path forward for conflict resolution.
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Bill Letty is the author of several important books related to this topic and related topics, such as five types of people that can ruin your life.