No, I Won't Be Your Bridesmaid

不,我不会做你的伴娘。

Modern Love

2026-04-22

51 分钟
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Ruhama Wolle loves weddings, but after being a bridesmaid three times in a little more than a year, she reached a breaking point. The financial and emotional burden was too much, and in an article for Glamour magazine, she publicly resigned from ever being a bridesmaid again.  Now, Wolle has written “I Hope You Elope: A Bridesmaid Survival Guide,” with practical tips on how to navigate the ask with authenticity, honesty and boundaries. In this episode of “Modern Love,” Wolle tells host Anna Martin  about the bridesmaid dynamics that made her call it quits. Plus, she gives advice and scripts for those looking to approach the role in a new way. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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  • This is Modern Love.

  • I'm 31, which means I am in the thick of my bridesmaid era.

  • By the end of this year, I 'll have been a bridesmaid four times,

  • officiated two weddings, and gone to five bachelorette parties.

  • For these weddings and the bachelorettes that come with them,

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  • I love celebrating them.

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