2024-09-16
2 小时 6 分钟Welcome to the Huberman Lab podcast, where we discuss science and science based tools for everyday life.
I'm Andrew Huberman, and I'm a professor of neurobiology and ophthalmology at Stanford School of Medicine.
My guest today is Esther Perel.
Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and one of the world's foremost experts on romantic relationships.
She's also the author of best selling books such as Mating in Captivity and the State of Affairs.
Todays discussion focuses on what it means to be in a truly functional romantic relationship.
We discuss this from the standpoint of identity, that is, how people both try to hold onto and evolve their identities within a relationship, and how a truly functional romantic relationship indeed evolves over time from a standpoint of curiosity and adventure, but also one in which people need to hold on to certain components of themselves.
We explore what conflict in relationships looks like and the dynamics that underlie those conflicts, so focusing less on specific scenarios, but rather the dynamics that exist in conflicts in romantic relationship across all different situations and different combinations of people.
And of course, we also talk about what healthy conflict resolution looks like, what a truly effective apology looks and sounds like.
And we explore the erotic aspects of relationships, comparing and contrasting, for instance, love and desire, how sometimes those things run in parallel in the same direction, how sometimes those run in opposite directions, and how people can explore their own notions, their own models of love and desire in order to have more effective romantic relationships.
By the end of today's episode, you will learn from the world's foremost expert on romantic relationships, how to find, build, and revive romantic relationships that feel most satisfying to all partners involved.
I'm also pleased to announce that Esther Perel has just released a new course on intimacy.
You can find a link to that course in the show, note captions as well as links to her, her books, her podcast, and other resources about romantic relationships.
Before we begin, I'd like to emphasize that this podcast is separate from my teaching and research roles at Stanford.
It is, however, part of my desire and effort to bring zero cost to consumer information about science and science related tools to the general public.
In keeping with that theme, I'd like to thank the sponsors of today's podcast.
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