2024-07-15
27 分钟Ted audio collective.
You'Re listening to how to be a better human.
I'm your host, Chris Duffy.
What do you do when you disagree with someone?
I'm not asking what you're supposed to do.
I'm asking what you actually do.
Personally, a lot of times I give a kind of strained smile, and I try my best to change the conversation topic as quickly as I possibly can.
Or if it's a person who I don't know very well and they're being particularly strident, I will sometimes make a little mental note to say, never hang out with this person ever again.
To be clear, I don't think that's a good thing.
I think it is bad to only talk and spend time with people who 100% agree with me.
But if I'm being honest, it is hard to push past those boundaries.
And I think that one big reason why it feels so hard is that there aren't all that many good models right now of civil and constructive disagreements.
Most of the examples that I see are of people disagreeing very loudly and very angrily.
There's not a lot of calm, respectful listening happening.
As a result of that, having conversations across difference feels scary and dangerous.
Today's guest, Alexandra Hudson, is the author of the book the soul of timeless Principles to heal society and ourselves.
Alexandra believes that the answer is a lot more civility in our lives, but she also believes that many people don't understand exactly what that means.
Here's a clip where Alexandra tells me what that word civility means.
To her, this is both the challenge and the opportunity.
In writing about a topic like civility.