2019-01-24
19 分钟Modern.
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From the New York Times and WBUR Boston.
This is modern love stories of love, loss and redemption.
Im your host, Meghna Chakrabarti.
Its easy to single out the biggest decisions you make in your life, but this weeks essay by Ann Leary is about little choicesthe ones you might not think about very much in the moment, but that end up slowly changing everything.
Its called rallying to keep the game alive, and its read by Connie Nielsen.
Shes starred in movies such as Wonder Woman and Gladiator, and you can see her in the new TNT show I am the Knight.
When I took up tennis, my husband was happy to play with our two children and me as long as we didn't have to play by the rules.
As Dennis repeatedly explained to us, playing by the rules placed him at an unfair disadvantage because he didn't know the rules and he didn't know how to serve.
Instead of learning the rules, he wanted to play a variation of tennis he had invented with a friend of his.
Their game involved no serving and a complicated but curiously malleable set of rules that often appeared to me to change mid game and almost always to Dennis's advantage.
This caused some heated courtside squabbles.
I'm ashamed to admit that one year we spent several days of a family vacation not speaking to each other after a game of Dennis tennis that I'd lost unfairly, until finally our son and daughter had to intervene and coerce a truce between us.
This was a tricky time in our marriage.
Though we had found tennis late, we had found each other quite early in our adult lives, and now we were going through a rough patch, one that had lasted for years.
When we met, I was 20, he was 25.
We were too young and inexperienced to know that people don't change who they are, only how they play and work with others.
Our basic problem was, and is, that we're almost identical in looks, attitudes, and psychological makeup.
Two Leos who love children and animals and are intensely emotional and highly sensitive and competitive with everybody, but especially with each other.