2018-10-31
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This is modern love stories of love, loss and redemption.
I'm your host, Magna Chakrabarti.
After a divorce, it can feel like the last thing you want to do is revisit the past.
But a ritual forced Cindy shupack to do just that, and she writes about it in her essay an ancient coda to my 21st century divorce.
Its read by Amy Landecker, whos best known for her work in Amazons.
Transparent I was finally getting married.
That's what I kept telling people.
I didn't say I was finally getting married again because bringing up a first marriage during the planning of a second is a major buzzkill for everyone involved.
It reminds the bride and groom, at a time when their biggest worries should be buttercream versus spun sugar, that love does not always conquer all.
And I didnt want to hang that cloud over my fiance Ian because this was his first wedding, another term I didnt like because it implied he may have a second.
So we tried not to talk about first or second anythings until our meeting with the rabbi.
Ian called our rabbi the hot rabbi because she was young and hip and, well, hot.
I didnt mind his calling her hot.
In fact, I found it reassuring because it was yet another indication that Ian was not gay.
Above all, I wanted to avoid publicly declaring my love for someone only to have him later realize hes gay again.
Yes, okay, so thats what happened the first time.
And thats what I told the hot rabbi when she asked if either of us had been married before.