Modern love.
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From the New York Times and WBUR Boston.
This is modern love stories of love, loss and redemption.
Im your host, Meghna Chakrabarti.
Love relies on communication, but what about when youre trying to communicate with someone in a different language that youre not fully fluent in?
Emily Robbins writes about that in her essay grappling with the language of love.
Its read by Saoirse Ronan.
She was nominated for an Oscar for her performance in Lady Bird, and she stars in the new film on Chesil beach.
We often hear about how hard it is to be articulate in a foreign language, but when I began to study Arabic, what took me a long time to learn was not how to speak, but how to listen.
Looking back, I see that my inability to listen well cost me my first love.
The man I loved was an iraqi doctor, young, like me.
He had been forced out of his country by war and had come to Syria to work in a refugee camp.
This was in 2008, before the revolution.
I was in Syria to study Arabic.
We met in that camp and for the next year we were constantly falling in and out of love, breaking up and getting back together, pouring out our hearts and fighting, mostly because of all he wanted to tell me that I didn't understand.
We did this in Arabic, his first and my second language.
The doctor and I were both alone in Damascus.
He claimed he loved me from the moment we first spoke because I had asked him a question.