2017-06-22
19 分钟Modern.
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This is modern love stories of love, loss, and redemption.
I'm your host, Meghna Chakrabarti.
Some fathers get to know their daughter's love interest by inviting him or her over for dinner.
Other dads go straight to Google.
Amelia Blancara's father preferred the latter.
Danielle Brooks, best known as Tasty on the Netflix series Orange is the New Black, reads Amelia's essay about that rustle.
In the bushes when my sister Ardell first told me about the binder, I could feel my body tense version of me would have immediately dialed my father and confronted him.
Because who would believe that my 77 year old father, Google stalks my boyfriends and keeps a binder of his salvage details and opinions for reference.
But years of therapy taught me to wait 10 seconds before automatically exploding with anger.
So in this case, I was able to keep cool long enough to decide to bring it up later with him in person.
If you were to look up the term helicopter parenting in the Wikipedia of my life, you would see a picture of my parents.
They would be the ones in the Huey, the ominous military chopper used in the Vietnam War.
Noisy and clunky, my parents made their presence known in my childhood house.
They read mail addressed to my siblings and me, rummaged through drawers, and opened doors without knocking.
It was the norm for them to be invasive, and their lack of respect for privacy annoyed me.
Although my siblings weren't as forthcoming with my parents about their lives, I always told them the truth.
It took me a while to figure out that they didn't want a true retelling of events, but the one that fit the fiction of how they thought my life should be.