There have been many times in my life where I found myself feeling really unhappy and not knowing what the issue was, but yet knowing that there was an issue.
And then a few months later, I would discover what the thing was.
And in many times in my life, I've realized that in those moments, I was feeling unhappy because I was not living life for me.
I was living life for everyone else and everything else but me.
I wasn't listening to my own opinions.
I wasn't making decisions.
For me, everything I was doing was a product of someone else's ideas, someone else's schedule, et cetera.
You know?
And what's really interesting about falling into a phase of not living life for you is that you don't always notice it.
It happens slowly, and it's not.
Obviously, it's kind of hard to spot.
And that's why almost every time I've experienced it, I've not realized in the moment that it was happening.
I've pretty much only ever been able to spot it months later, which is interesting because it's something I'm aware of, but yet I can fall into it and not even recognize it when it's happening, because it can come in so many shapes and sizes, it can come in many different forms.
You know, it's not always the same twice, but it has the same psychological impact and the same terrible feeling.
When you're living life for someone or something else other than you, you can weirdly feel trapped in a way.
You feel trapped by maybe, well, confined, maybe.
I mean, is trapped and confined the same thing?
Not really.
Maybe you can feel sort of confined to some other force and what that's sort of inspiring you to do, and it can be really upsetting.
And so today I wanted to talk about living life for you, and I want to discuss some of the sneaky ways that you can find yourself in a routine where you're not living for you.