What I Got Wrong About My Parents’ Marriage

我对父母的婚姻有什么问题

Modern Love

社会与文化

2023-06-22

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As one of the only Indian girls in her tiny Canadian mountain town, Natasha Singh stood out — and she was unafraid of being different. At 13, she shaved her head. By 17, she had run away for good. A few years later she came out to her mother. Natasha’s worldview was worlds apart from her very traditional immigrant parents. Her mother always wore a sari — never pants — and Natasha longed for the power and control her father wielded in the family. She balked at the idea of marriage. That is, until she found Branly. Now, decades after leaving home and watching her parents age together, Natasha reflects on a new understanding of her parents and an appreciation for the devotion they shared.
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  • [MUSIC PLAYING]

  • Anna Martin: From 'The New York Times,'

  • I'm Anna Martin.

  • This is 'Modern Love.'

  • Growing up,

  • I loved to watch my parents.

  • I noticed small things.

  • Like, whenever my mom would get up from the dinner table,

  • my dad would stand up, too.

  • When we watched a movie,

  • they'd sit next to each other on the couch

  • so my mom could easily scratch my dad's head.

  • And when we were in the car,

  • they'd bicker over each other's driving

  • and then apologize before we even got out.

  • It made me think,

  • OK, this is what a marriage is.

  • This is what it means to love someone for life.

  • And I knew that I wanted that someday.

  • Today's essay is by a woman