How to forget about finding “The One”— and build a lasting relationship (with Dr. George Blair West)

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  Ted audio collective, you're listening to how to be a better human.

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  I'm your host, Chris Duffy.

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  If you choose to partner up, one of the most important decisions of your life is who you're going to partner with.

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  How do you pick who you're going to spend your life with?

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  What is the right selection process for a decision that enormous?

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  Not to mention you gotta pick someone who also picks you.

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  And then even once youve found a person, youre nowhere near close to done.

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  I mean, how do you be a good partner?

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  How do you avoid divorce?

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  And is there really just one perfect soulmate out there for each of us?

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  As you can tell, I have a lot of questions.

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  You probably do, too.

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  And luckily, todays guest, George Blair west, has some answers.

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  He is a relationship expert, and here is a clip from one of his talks.

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  Almost 50 years ago, psychiatrists Richard Ray and Thomas Holmes developed an inventory of the most distressing human experiences that we could have.

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  Number one on the list, death of a spouse.

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  Number two, divorce.

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  Three, marital separation.

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  Now, generally, but not always, for those three to occur, we need what comes in number seven of the list, which is marriage.

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  Fourth on the list is imprisonment in an institution.

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