2023-03-20
31 分钟Ted audio collective.
You're listening to how to be a better human.
I'm your host, Chris Duffy.
One of the trickiest parts about success and chasing success is that everyone has a different definition in their mind.
And sometimes when we get the thing we've been striving for, we realize that it isn't actually what we want at all.
It's just a story that's been fed to us by someone else.
Todays guest Julisa Arce is doing her best to redefine success for herself and to get the rest of us to do the same.
Because Julissa has achieved several different visions of success and still has found them unsatisfying.
For example, by many peoples definitions of it, Julisa has lived the american dream.
She moved to the United States from Mexico as a kid to join her parents, who had a business here.
And then when her visa expired, Julissa became undocumented.
Despite that stress, she worked hard.
She graduated college, and she got a high paying job on Wall street.
But it didn't feel like success to her, so she left her job.
She wrote a best selling book.
She became a us citizen.
And still there was something missing.
In her latest book, you sound like a White Girl, Julissa explores the meaning and the cost of success, particularly when it comes to having to assimilate to achieve it.
To me, assimilation is a sort of absorbing of a different culture at the expense of your own that you have to sort of become this other thing that you weren't really meant to be.
And so I've had sort of this journey of pursuing this idea of success and the american dream at the place that I think most epitomizes american culture and capitalism, you know, being Wall street to now sort of being a writer and really exploring and rejecting this idea that in order to be successful, we have to assimilate that in order to be successful, we have to be the whitest version of ourselves in order to be accepted, to find belonging, to find success.