How to keep house while drowning (w/ KC Davis)

溺水时如何保持房屋(KC Davis)

How to Be a Better Human

自我完善

2023-04-10

34 分钟
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Let’s face it: if chores were fun, they probably wouldn’t be called that. Because for most people, life can be overwhelming – and that means it doesn’t always look like a cleaning commercial where everyone is dancing their way to do laundry, take out trash, or smiling while washing the dishes. KC Davis is a therapist, author, podcaster, and TikToker who knows that caring for yourself can be a struggle. In this episode, she shares how radically rethinking “care” tasks –like not seeing a lack of cleanliness as shameful, or viewing messiness as a moral failure– can improve our quality of life. She also shares small strategies that could help us take better care of ourselves, because we deserve it. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts
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  • Ted audio collective.

  • You'Re listening to how to be a better human.

  • I'm your host, Chris Duffy.

  • As I've gotten older and become an official adult, a lot of the skills that I've had to learn along the way have to do with how to take care of my body and how to take care of my home.

  • I remember being absolutely shocked the first time that I learned that you have to scrub a shower.

  • I'm still, honestly, a little skeptical.

  • Like, how can it need me to do work when all I ever put in here is hot water and soap?

  • I'm giving you all the tools.

  • Shower.

  • Meet me halfway.

  • But okay, fine, I'm supposed to scrub it.

  • I've learned that over the years, I've also done my best to figure out how to do laundry, dishes, whether you're supposed to vacuum, mop, or sweep a floor.

  • I'm still a little fuzzy on that one, but I'm figuring it out and all sorts of other skills.

  • Today's guest, though, Casey Davis, is the author of how to keep House while drowning, a gentle approach to cleaning and organizing, and this is a book that, for the first time really made me think deeply about the morality and the judgments that we put on all of those things.

  • It changed the way that I see cleaning, hygiene, and self compassion.

  • Here's a clip from Casey's TEDx talk called how to do laundry when you're depressed.

  • I'm just a therapist with ADHD, and in February of 2020, I had my second baby.

  • February of 2020 is when the COVID lockdowns happened in a blur.

  • My days turned into breastfeeding difficulties, toddler meltdowns, and depression.

  • The dishes stayed in the sink for days, the laundry pile reached impressive heights, and there was often not a path to walk from room to room.